Why Do Men Always Cheat - Because They're Afraid of Being Alone?

This is one of the top questions that women always ask each other. "Why do men cheat?" Well, there are a lot of possible reasons, but it mostly just depends on the guy who is cheating.

In this article I will describe, in as much detail as possible, many of the reasons why men cheat.  I am a man myself, so I understand the way men think and can offer you better insight to why men cheat.

This is the number one reason why not only men cheat, but why women cheat as well.

Men could be dissatisfied with their wives or girlfriends for any number of reasons. Perhaps she is always moody or upset and is never willing to 'put out.' Maybe she is always busy working or out with her friends and the man feels dissatisfied with their whole relationship in general. It could be ridiculously shallow reasons as well. For example, maybe he thinks she is too overweight or unattractive and just no longer feels any sexual desire towards her. Maybe he feels she is not bringing in enough income to be worth staying with.

Believe it or not, when a man doesn't trust his partner, he is more likely to cheat on them himself.  If he suspects you are cheating, don't be too surprised to find out he is. 

It's a very complex defense mechanism and, as strange as it is, I know it exists, because a couple of my friends have told me this is one of the reasons they have cheated on their girlfriends in the past.

Why do men cheat when they don't trust you?  According to on of my friends, who we'll call Gerald, it is a way of beating women at their own game.  When certain men suspect their partners are cheating on them, they go out and try to cheat on their partners as much as possible to 'get even.'  They do this for two reasons:

1) So when they finally catch their girlfriend or wife OR she finally tells them about it, they can strike back just as hard by telling her they've been cheating too.

2) So they will have options already in place when they find out their girlfriend or wife was cheating on them, if she leaves them for another man.

I'd also like to note that this reason for why men cheat is EXTREMELY rare.  Few and far men out there have the personality to use this as a reason for cheating. 

Sometimes when men see their current relationship is failing, they'll go out and start to try and establish a new relationship to transition into before the old one falls apart and ends. 

Why do men cheat when they see their current relationship is failing?  The reason certain men do this is because they are utterly afraid of being alone.  They don't want to ever be left without a girlfriend or wife, because they perceive that so much of who they are is based on what kind of woman they are with.  They're afraid of feeling worthless and alone, with no one there to show the type of affection only a woman can.  They're even more afraid that their woman will eventually leave them and no other women will ever want to be in a relationship again.

So what they do is go out and start looking for a new relationship, before they quit their old one on their own terms.  The whole psychology behind this reason for why men cheat is very similar to why people want to be hired at a new job, before they quit their old job that they are not satisfied with.  That is perhaps the easiest way to understand this complex psychological behavior.

Usually this reason goes hand in hand with one of the ones I described above, to compliment it, but it can be a reason in and of itself if a lack of self control is severe enough. 

Men who cheat out of a simple lack of self control are usually lacking it so bad that it shows in other areas of their life.  If you know what to look for, as a woman, you can avoid ever ending up in relationships with men who cheat for this reason. 

When men reflect a severe lack of self control in other aspects of their life, it is likely to carry over to their fidelity in relationships.  Does the man have a hard time controlling how much money he spends on entertainment?  Does he have a hard time holding down a job, because he fails to prove he is a reliable employee?  Does he have a severe addiction to alcohol, tobacco or porn?  Does he not reflect self control over making healthy choices when it comes to eating and exercising?  Any of these signs can be HUGE red flags when it comes to choosing a man who you can trust.  If you see more than one of these traits in a potential partner, you're better of saving yourself future heart ache and steering clear of them.

Men cheat for a whole different variety of reasons.  Some of the reasons are similar to why women cheat, but most of the ones listed above are unique to the male population.

Now that you know why men cheat, you can be more careful in choosing a future partner.  Use the above information to analyze how loyal you think they would be, based on their unique personality BEFORE you give them the power to cheat on you and hurt you deeply.

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